Do you feel as if anger explodes out of you?

Most likely, you’ve had people tell you that your anger is a problem. Or, maybe because people are scared, you haven’t heard it out loud, but you can sense it. People feel uncomfortable around you because they never know when you’re going to explode.

Anger can be easy to justify.

“They’re acting stupid.”

“It would be easy to not get angry if people acted reasonably.”

“I only get angry sometimess.”

“People don’t listen until I get angry.”

The thing is that anger has worked for you. That’s what makes it easy to justify. People listen because you get angry. You get things done because there are times when the anger comes through. It works, but at what cost? Likely, if you’re here, you’re starting to realize that even though anger has served you in some ways, it has also caused a lot of problems.

The goal of therapy is not just to just provide new skills, but we want to understand how anger became a main strategy. We can’t plant a new tree unless we get rid of the old roots. This deeper work is some of my favorite to walk with clients through.