The reality of most marriages and relationship is that things can get hard. When patterns around conflict get entrenched, it can feel like breaking those patterns is nearly impossible.

Couples therapy isn’t just about complaining about your partner (although it can be sometimes). Often times, couples don’t even see the unhealthy patterns that have become engrained in their relationship. Clearly they see the arguments, the frustration, the sadness, but as to what to do about it or how it got there? Clueless.

This is where therapy can be really beneficial. I don’t claim to be some relationship guru, but I do claim to be another set of eyes. It’s natural for humans to be blind to what they have become accustomed to, and sometimes the most beneficial thing can be someone else’s perspective.

One of the things I can promise you’ll not hear from me in session is, “in my relationship I…blah, blah, blah.” I would rather punch myself in the face. Your relationship is unique with its own patterns, intricacies, and conflicts. It should be treated as such.